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Where does our energy come from?  Is it what we eat?  Is it what we do?  Is it or is it not our attitude??  Someone once said to me \u2018life is what you make it\u2019, I want to believe it but let\u2019s have a look and take one step at a time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I think I am lucky enough to have a pretty good life and I think people who know me also probably think that, I\u2019m just confirming that yes, they\u2019re right.  They probably wish (on some level) that they were living my life, I\u2019ve had comments made to me like \u2018you have a lot of holidays\u2019 and \u2018you\u2019re always spending money\u2019 but that\u2019s not true, we don\u2019t always do these things.  The difference is that we prioritise, and although you don\u2019t realise it we all do it.  We all go to the supermarket and ponder over which is the better offer, Branston or Heinz?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I ponder over what in my life needs to be done, I spend agonising time wondering if I\u2019ll have enough time in the day to do my work, then get to the gym, do some writing and then I hope that I get a good nights sleep so that I\u2019m fresh for the next day *phew*.  I\u2019ve discussed with myself (I know this sounds strange but it helps) \u2018there\u2019s so much to do.\u2019 So I break it down, pick the most important thing to me and start with that then the rest will come along after\u2019. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Everyone has a to-do list <\/a>in their head, come on I know you\u2019re thinking of what\u2019s on that list right now\u2026.what\u2019s on it?\u00a0 Shopping this week, make sure to get a birthday card for Auntie Joyce or is it to make sure that washing basket doesn\u2019t over flow again??\u00a0 See I knew it!\u00a0 So here we go, I\u2019m going to break down my longterm to-do list:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The most important thing to me is to concentrate of getting my weight off, I\u2019ve tried all the diets under the sun.\u00a0 Having PCOS and and an Underactive Thyroid is working against me and I will not let it win *godamnit*.\u00a0 I already do a couple of hours cardio a week along with sticking to under 1400 calories a day, there has to be a way of doing this.\u00a0 So I start on Thursday with an expert, when I say expert I\u2019m not actually sure what his title is but I\u2019ve heard he\u2019s good and hopefully he won\u2019t see me and think \u201cOh god another fat person that eats the wrong thing\u201d.\u00a0 Like my husband said he may look at me and think, \u201cI really want to help this girl achieve her goal.\u201d\u00a0 So hopefully he\u2019ll have an understanding of what I can and can\u2019t have and help me with the back issue\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Which brings me to the second goal, sort my back problems out.  Just under two years ago, remember that snow we had in Hampshire?  Well I slipped on black ice at work in the car park and since then I\u2019ve suffered with my back, having spent money on Chiropractor, Physiotherapist and massages it\u2019s not got any better.  I have this ongoing issue of getting out of struggling to get out of bed in the morning and I mean physically I struggle.  It totally sucks that I can\u2019t just sit up like I used to and sit and read or watch television in bed like I used to on a regular basis.  I now have to go to bed when I\u2019m intending on sleeping (and NO i\u2019m not going to mention the other thing you do in bed, this is not that sort of blog!)  However after recently re-discovering Pilates it seems that I\u2019m able to manage the pain more. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

\"Rolled<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

Writing, blogging, writing and errrr more writing!  I haven\u2019t done much writing but now I\u2019ve joined this blogging101 and of course now I have invested in a MacMini which will keep me going on line and buzzing\u2026\u2026so I\u2019ll be writing in purple ink AND hopefully getting round to finishing my second book! <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Sewing projects have been a bit on the back burner, but I have enrolled on a sewing course in January so that will be the next stage of my goals!  I will be learning how to do soft furnishings such as curtains, cushions, bedding and blinds so that will be something to look forward to (and no I\u2019m not taking bookings now before you ask tee hee!)<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Next year I turn forty (that big old number eh?) and to be completely honest I don\u2019t feel it, like I said to my husband this morning (whilst snuggled up in bed) I still feel like I\u2019m in my twenties.  But I\u2019ve booked to have a bash, so I\u2019m hoping that by then all these goals and bullet points on the to-do list will not necessarily be completed but I hope that I\u2019ve accomplished one and possibly looking to finalising most of them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I don\u2019t think I\u2019m setting my sights too high, what do you think?  Do you reckon all this could be achievable or am I setting goals that are too high for someone with lack of energy and a full time job?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you have goals, why not do the same as me and write them down?!  I\u2019m going to look back on this blog this time next year (yes, yes, yes when I\u2019m forty!) and I really do hope that I\u2019ve kept this promise to myself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

*positive thoughts and happy dances*<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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